Get Outside Yourself

I've got a confession. Every time I launch a new teleclass, a workshop, or new product, I get a little nervous.

The sensitive-child part of me that really needs to be liked, to be approved of, to be acknowledged, really wants the project to be a success - lots of sales, full-house, and so on. I secretly worry, "what if they don't like it? What if they don't like me?"

From an attraction point of view, you know how this story ends, right?

Launching a project with the intention of it 'not to fail' because it would feel really bad only brings more of the same dominant vibration - failure and worry. Ugh.

But how do you crack the circular nature of this thought pattern? The thoughts go like this: "I want this to work out. I want this to be a success. Because if didn't it would feel bad. It's got to be a success because failure is not an option. But what if it is?" And so on. You get trapped in the negative 'what if' scenarios.

This is how I've conquered this paralysing train of thought:

I get out of myself.

No, it' not some weird tele-transmutation.

It's a shift in focus.

I ask myself, "what do I really want to achieve? Why? Who do I want to help? Who needs this product or service and will it really make a difference to them?"

These are the questions I was asking the last few weeks about the retreat, and about the 7 Deadly Sins of Women's Leadership Breakfast. I just know that this information - these experiences - will make an enormous difference to the people who attend. Why? Because I am sharing - along with my colleague Agi - all the resources and strategies that I know in my very bones (because I've used them myself in trying times) make leadership and life so much easier.

It's the thoughts around contribution, the thoughts around enabling others, that pull me out of my reverie of feeling the need to be acknowledged (through sales, feedback and other means).

In other words - I get out of myself and think about someone else - the difference it will make in their life.

And that makes me smile inside.

And when you are smiling - you know how this goes - good things come to you.

And good things did happen this week! Agi and I got an invitation to present about the retreat at one of Canberra's leading legal firms, I had unsolicited fantastic feedback from some clients, registrations for the brekkie are streaming in, I even got two substantial leads for new short leadership courses today for the Australian Rural Leadership Foundation.

I'm groovin' baby! And it feels fab!

The message again, in case you missed it - it's not about you - it's about them.

Every time you get up to speak, or make an offer, or put yourself out on a limb - remember you're doing this because you want to make a difference in other people's lives. Your self-consciousness drops and you feel strengthened by your purpose.

To wonderful, fabulous YOU!