I've been playing with a new Iphone App - a gratitude journal - and it has a 'rate your day' scale of 0-5 stars.
I'd had a pretty regular day and was about to click '3 stars'.
Now wait a minute, I told myself, why only '3'? Why aren't you having a 5 star day?
And that's when it occurred to me, I'm still waiting for circumstances to change in order to feel good.
Ugh. This is a classic problem I see all the time with clients. If you've got a 'when...then I'll be happy' equation going, then you are in resistance and rehearsing the state of chronic disappointment.
You don't get happy when circumstances change! This is because you've been rehearsing disappointment so much that even when circumstances do change, you don't quite know how to adjust. You may feel relief and elation for a little while, but then the old thought and feeling patterns sneak back in. Like the guy who quits his job in a state of misery - happy for a little bit because the relief is there, but pretty soon it's back to 'woe is me'; Or the girl who longs for a relationship, finally gets in one to feel in love for a brief period, but then soon feels unsettled and unfulfilled - relationship over.
We get what we regularly think and feel about.
So when you chronically rate your days a two or three out of five, that's what you're going to get, ad nauseum.
Here's the thing to do (and a good note to myself too!): Make your job to make each day a five out five, regardless of what you are doing, who you are with - by virtue of what you focus on, how you appreciate, how you find fun and pleasure in small moments.
That's it!
Got some tips? Please share :)
According to my opinion, for life the order is Knowledge, Relation, Money, Fame.
ReplyDeleteI can give Knowledge foremost importance the reason is that if you have knowledge then you can maintain or understand any relation, office environment etc.all of them.
Here are a few of my suggestions:
ReplyDelete1.Figure out what your values are and then live by them.
2. Create exciting goals, break them down into steps to get there, take action, and celebrate both your progress along the way, and the achievement of reaching each goal.
3. Spend time in nature regularly, create the uplifting environments you want to work in and live in, practice daily self-care and develop healthy habits.
4. Give of your time,talents, and assets to others without expecting anything in return.
Practice gratitude daily. Life other people up with sincere praise.
5. Have fun and laugh often. Do things that light you up inside. Read good books,learn new things regularly, and spend time with people who you truly enjoy being around. Make sure to find mentors who have done or are doing what you want to do next.
6. Love yourself and forgive your mistakes. Learn from them. Be a nice person and set an example for others.
Do these things and watch your life transform. Mine did! I'm celebrating life daily now.
Hey Beth! #3 and 5 are my faves, followed closely by #6.
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