Who Are You Judging? Paris Hilton?

Recently 'Bob' mentioned how a trainer had asked him to leave a program because Bob had done something so heinous it warranted booting him off the course.

What did he do?

Bob had confessed to feeling torn about his feelings for two different women.

Seriously? The trainer asked you to leave because you had conflicting feelings? For being human? And then asking for support about it? What the...?

That was my response. I was horrified that ANY coach would judge a client in that way.

Judge a client in ANY way.

Where was the compassion? Where was the seeing the client in their highest light? Where was the gentle encouragement to seek guidance from their inner wisdom?

The more I thought about the audacity and the sheer being-a-total-meanie aspect of this coach, the more wound up I got about it.

I was indignant, outraged, and offended. And I was judging that coach something chronic.

Just like she judged Bob.

Whoa.

Here I was dumping bile on the coach for actions I considered that I would NEVER do myself.

Just like she did to Bob.

It's so easy to get caught up in our righteous indignation and to make a ruling on someone else's choices, just because we would not choose it for ourselves.

I believe I would NEVER judge a client, no matter what they told me. And I've had some interesting confessions - everything from regretting becoming a mother, to infidelity, to abandoning a new born with a spurned lover.

'There but by the grace of God go I' has been my mantra. Who am I to judge? My job as a coach, leader, and fellow human being is to feel nothing but compassion and encourage others to find a way to heal their perceived mistakes, to find learning in their decisions, and to come back to who they really are - loving, spiritual, beings capable of deep love and wisdom themselves.

Or so I thought until I started heaping spite on this poor unknown coach.

It's not always easy to step away from judgment of others. It's how our ego justifies being 'right'.

Rising above judgment however is how we step into our true nature - of being loving individuals, who aspire to inspire, to guide others in loving ways.

There is nothing loving in judging.

So how do we get away from it?

When you hear someone say something that rattles your values, no matter how much your ego wants to call it 'hideous', (Paris Hilton comes to mind) practise sending that person messages of love, messages of support, knowing they can return to their Highest state of love and compassion at any time.

I know this sound all noble and stuff, and in reality it is more like an arm wrestle with your ego: you sway between the voices of 'they're a nasty piece of work - what a ho!' and 'she is just seeking love - she will find that source of endless compassion within her at some stage - I wish her well'.

When you notice you are more on the catty, bitchy side, it's a start. Don't judge yourself. Just look for the thought that feels more loving.

After all, we're all works in progress.

Zoe

p.s. Discovering more of how to access our Highest Guidance is exactly what we will be doing in my exclusive Deep Wisdom program coming up in Canberra.

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