Are You Done Yet?

Hooray! I love moments like this. A client said to me she was ready to be 'done' with a past relationship - done with guilt, done with regret, done with resentment, done with...you name it, there were plenty of feel-bad feelings.

Why is this so exciting? When you decide finally that you no longer need to punish yourself for past experiences, it's a significant and powerful lurch into a happier and more empowered state of being.

And the best part? You don't need anyone else to do anything for you to activate the relief that forgiveness brings.

You don't need anyone to say sorry to you. You don't need to say sorry to anyone else.

All you need to do is to decide that you no longer need to be tied emotionally and enegetically to the past.

This does not mean you 'forget'. It does not mean you accept and condone what happened.

All it means is that you choose not to be punished anymore for the past.

Staying with guilt and remorse does NOTHING to fix past events. In fact, it only adds negativity and misery to the world, and why would you want to do that?

By all means learn from what happened. See the lessons, embrace them, and look to where you can enact the learning in future relationships so that it feels better to everyone involved.

Let go of the past, expect a pleasant future, and be happily present.

So the question for you this week is, Are you done yet with feeling bad? Are you done with guilt? Are you done with self sabotage? Are you done with resentment? Are you done with pessimism? Are you done with grudges? Are you done with playing the martyr? Are you done with punishing yourself with food/wine/chocolate/cigarettes/alcohol/sugar? Are you done with not liking your body? Are you done with feeling not good enough? Are you done with fear? Are you done with doubt?

What else could you be done with? I would love to hear it!

To your success.